There came a time when the risk to remain tight in the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom. ~Anaïs Nin

Tuesday, May 17, 2011

Laying a New Foundation - Part One

In baseball, when a team is struggling it’s not uncommon for the manager to bring in a new coach. And typically, the new coach will go back to basics and focus on the fundamentals.  Why? Because a good coach knows the value of laying a proper foundation.

I have been challenged to acknowledge five things about myself that I am proud of, things I would brag about with regards to myself and my accomplishments.  At the moment this was first asked of me, I couldn’t do it, but today is a new day.   And I’m in the mood to have a little fun.

So first things first…what do I like about myself? What do I want to brag about?  Well, being that I can be all about appearances and putting up a good front,  let’s start with the superficial.   I have great legs.  I mean really great legs.  It’s my favorite feature.  I’m proud of them, and I work out regularly to keep them in shape.

But I’m afraid to tell you that.  It seems so self-absorbed and conceited. So Brittany Spears. Hey everyone, look at my great legs.  So I don’t show them off, preferring to play it safe and follow the rules of society.  The rules that say moms who are over 40 should not look hot and sexy.  Well today I’m breaking those rules.  Even if only for a day. 

Because I think that maybe I need to go back to basics and focus on the fundamentals.  It’s time to go back to the days when I wasn’t self-conscious and overly preoccupied with what people thought of me.  (I mean we are talking a long time ago…think diapers).  But if I can rebuild my foundation, one based on self-love and self-acceptance, who knows…maybe I can win a World Series one day.

And yep…these are my legs….pretty sexy, huh?


  1. "It’s time to go back to the days when I wasn’t self-conscious and overly preoccupied with what people thought of me." Amen!:) This is exactly what has been on my mind too lately! I say something like "Oh my goodness, what did they think when I did that?" and then think what when did I start thinking like this? I never used to care! So I'm totally with you!

    Lovely legs by the way...mine are not a favorite feature of mine, they are rather chubby!:)

    Have a lovely day Deborah!!

  2. What is your favorite feature Colleen? I think you should tell me in a blog :) As a teenager I remember being self conscious and I always assumed it was something I would just outgrow...I am learning though that that won't happen unless I make it happen!

  3. Boy, those are great legs! I have great legs too - pretty much the same as yours but not quite as loooooong so not quite as sexy. When I get complimented on my legs, I refer to them as my "tree trunks" or say something like "I can't take credit - I got them from my Dad - my sister, Debbie, has the same legs." And once I was approached by a man in the gym who said he wished he had calves like mine....I didn't take that as a complement - I heard "you have man calves". So, I was no longer so proud of my great "man" legs.

    But I realize now that I am discrediting all the years of teaching aerobics, weight lifting, running, biking....I probably wouldn't have maintained my legs without all that hard work! So instead of focusing so much on my "fat arms and man legs", maybe I will follow suit and remind myself to cherish my great legs (not ready to cherish my fat arms yet....)!

    So thanks Debbie for sharing that! Oh and John says those are sexy legs - LOL!


  4. hahaha Dana, I am laughing so hard! "fat arms and man legs" Try wearing a pair of pumps instead of those birkenstocks and see what happens to those awesome calves of yours! And thanks John! :)

  5. Favorite feature...well, when I smile I have some lovely gold fillings in the front of my mouth that really sparkle when the light hits them. Plus they make me look rich and quite classy. Yes, I think that is my favorite physical feature...

  6. Colleen...hahaha....You have a beautiful smile! Now I know why!

  7. The last time I bought "pumps" which were really clog type shoes with a thick heel, the woman in the shoe store said "you look like you are having some difficulty walking in heels". HA HA HA - I was!

    You mean give up the 32 pairs of sneakers and boots that fill up my basement??? Can't do it!

    But on a more serious note, I did buy some sandals at TJ Maxx last year that have a high wedge heel - it was definitely "out of the box" for me. I honestly felt so out of place wearing them, kind of "slutty", and felt like I needed to shrink myself to be less noticeable. I didn't feel like I could walk tall and confident as I thought I was drawing the "wrong kind of attention". No wonder we women are so messed up - we get so many mixed messages from society!

    Forget society and let's make our next goal finding the sexiest shoes around!!! AND wear them proudly!!!

  8. oh I can definitely do that! I have plenty of those kinda shoes :) Tell me your size and I'll pick out something for you and send it.

  9. Daaaaaaaaaaaaum, those are some sexy legs. If I had legs like those, I'd never wear pants.

    Love the idea of rebuilding your foundation!

  10. Look at those great legs...I think this is really can be hard to look at ourselves and be critical or compare ourselves to some ideal or maybe how we looked when we were a lot

    I love this line of yours..."It’s time to go back to the days when I wasn’t self-conscious and overly preoccupied with what people thought of me." Amen sister! I am working on this too. I hope you keep working on this...I look forward to reading the 4 other things are. :) XX

  11. In the words of RuPaul: "You work it, girl!" LOL. Sorry...I've been watching too much VH1. LOL

    Gorgeous legs! Oh, by the way: drop by my blog. There's something special waiting for you under my blog entry, "AND THE AWARD GOES TO..."

  12. Being a married man, I'm afraid that it wouldn't be proper to comment on your legs.

    Luckily, being "proper", as always, is pretty far down the list for me...

    Nice pegs! Yowsza!