There came a time when the risk to remain tight in the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom. ~Anaïs Nin

Wednesday, January 26, 2011

Playdates...Not Just For Kids Anymore

      Last night, Scott (my husband)  and I went out for dinner at one of our local restaurants. We settled into our table and my attention was drawn to a group of ladies sitting at the bar. They were laughing,  talking, drinking and having an all around good time.  I felt a twinge of envy and realized that I couldn’t recall the last time I went out with the girls.

      Now, Scott is my best friend, we love hanging out together. We love our date nights, going out to dinner and movies, but there is something to be said for girls night out. In fact, I think it’s a necessary part of a woman’s life.  If only because we love to talk and we do it differently than men do.

       My conversations with Scott are very one-sided and sound something like this…

      “So I went to the grocery store today, they completely changed the produce aisles around, I couldn’t find anything for the longest time, everything was in a new place…are you listening? anyway, then I stopped by Starbucks and saw Christine, she got a new haircut…Scott, you aren’t listening, put your phone down…”

      That same conversation with a girlfriend would go something like this…

     “So I went to the grocery store today…”  “Oh my God, I was there yesterday, they completely changed the produce aisles!”  “I know, I could barely find anything…and did I mention I ran into Christine?”   “Didn’t you love her new haircut?”

      Girl talk is fast paced, highly charged and very interactive. Men are bottom-line people. “Tell me your story in 10 words or less and move along.  Better yet”, they say, “can you email it? I will read it during half-time.”
      Girl’s night out is essential to a woman’s mental health and I’m certain my husband would appreciate the quiet time.  Yes, what I need is a playdate.  Now, I just have to find a group of ladies….


  1. You are so right, girl time is essential to our well being. I don't do it enough..heck I hardly do it at all since I stepped back into motherhood...but this coming weekend I am going to a girls weekend...I cannot wait...not going far, in fact only about 20 minutes away...we are all going to be at a girlfriends house...old friends getting together for a weekend playdate...we've all gone in different directions...I so can't wait to just let go. I hope you find your group of ladies to have a play date with!

  2. I agree with you...there is something so good for the soul in being with is essential! I miss it too sometimes.:)

    I hope that you find a wonderful group of women who you are able to laugh and be yourself with! Have a lovely Thursday Deborah!

  3. Thanks Ladies! I do have friends (didn't mean to make myself sound like a but we always get together as couples and frankly that's not the same. I'll keep working on it!
    Lori...have a great time this weekend, I will look forward to hearing about it on your blog!

  4. lol "email it to me during half time"
    isn't that the truth!!